embrace

It is not a mistake that I am here. Nor is it a mistake that you are
here, believe it or not. I may have been mistaken and confused, for a
long time, about my purpose. Such mistakes do not matter. It is
awareness of mistakes that matters. It is our mistakes that make us
aware, gradually or suddenly, of what matters most to us. It matters
what matters most to me. It important to me to find out what matters
most to me, for what matters most to me is my life purpose. What also
matters to me is finding out what matters most to you. I am deeply
interested in what you consider as your life purpose. For that is a
sweet thing to know about you.

If you are clear about your life purpose then we should definitely
meet up, for then it will be my delight to find out more, as
inspiration. If you are not clear about your life purpose, it may
still be delightful to meet. So with this message I am reaching out to
you, and it would be my delight if you answer this open invitation to
meet. The remarkable thing is that the purpose of our meeting need not
be clear beforehand. There are many things we do not need to know, and
this is one of them. Why not meet just for the joy of it?

So this is an open invitation to you, and it would give me great joy
if you accept this call. My hope is that our encounter can bring
forth something beautiful that can only come into existence when the
two of us meet. You are unique, I am unique, so what happens when we
get together is bound to be unique as well. What this beautiful thing
looks like, I cannot know on my own. So, clearly, I need you for
this. Also, I have no way of knowing, on my own, which part of you and
me our meeting will engage. This is something we can only decide
together, and find out together. And that is how it has to be.

If this appeals to you, you will feel it, as a stirring deep within
you. In that case, please contact me, so that we can connect and find
out what the Universe has in store for us. You do not have to know
beforehand what will come out of our meeting. You do not even have to
know what you want out of our meeting. These things we can find out
together. Maybe reading this is just a reminder for you that reaching
out to someone – does not have to be me – is always possible. That is also wonderful.
In that way, my message to you will also have served its purpose.

There is a vision behind what I am writing to you here, a vision that
this planet can be a wonderful place of mutual inspiration, mutual
support, and co-creation. In this beautiful vision, a planet where
individual human beings like you and me meet each other, share parts
of their worlds in order to inspire and get inspired, is still
possible. This is not like it used to be, no. But that is also good
news, for it means that you and I have a chance to make a difference.

And money need not be a basis of this. The purpose of our meeting is
not for me to teach you something, in exchange for a fee, for I have
nothing to teach. But I have a longing to discover what we can learn
from each other when we meet. What I long for is a free exchange from
heart to heart, so that we can discover how we can support and inspire
each other. Maybe create something beautiful together, who knows?

I have a deep longing for a world to appear where people freely
connect. I have a deep desire for my vision to become an inspiration
for you, and for you in turn to make this vision an inspiration for
others. And my wish is that it then can go on, endlessly, ripple after
ripple of mutual support, mutual inspiration and co-creation. The
possibilities for co-creation and mutual inspiration to create, and
support, and heal, and repair, and mend are without end. And the
process itself will give us limitless joy.

For this is something I know from my own experience. There is great
joy in a meeting of minds and hearts where the only purpose is to
share with each other what our worlds are like. If you reflect on it
for a moment you can see that we are each living in our own world, and
that the world you live in and the world I live in may be vastly
different. To get a glimpse of what the world of someone else really
looks like for them can be a real adventure. It can be a cause of
wonder, delight, laughter, merriment, amazement. To be honest, it can
also be a bit frightening at times. Above all, it gives us an occasion
to recognize and validate each other. I can freely share with you what
it is truly like to be me. And revealing to you what it is truly like
to be me is revealing what it is truly like to be human. For I am
sharing with you what it is like to be in my world, and to share that
with you is my delight. If, in exchange, you share your world with me,
then that will add to my delight.

The beautiful thing is that I can use you to explore and illuminate my
own world, and you can use me to explore and illuminate yours. This
can be any kind of process. It may be easy, it may be difficult. It
may be light-hearted, it may be serious. There is no way of knowing in
advance what the process will feel like, what it will reveal, or how
it will end. In fact, it need never end. For although we, you and I,
live in vastly different worlds, there is also a vast amount of stuff
that we have in common. After all, what a coincidence that we are
finding each other together here, together now, together at the same
point in infinite time, together on this wonderful, beautiful,
vulnerable blue planet, this tiny speck in the vastness of the living
universe, at this crucial point in time where earth is going through a
dramatic transition caused by our species, homo sapiens.

So in fact we are already very very close together. We, you and I,
are both members of homo sapiens, this peculiar species, the only
species that we know of that has reached the stage of
self-consciousness. To be self-conscious means not only to be
conscious of the fact that we are separate from our environment and
interacting with it. It also means that we can look at ourselves as
self-conscious beings. To be self-conscious is to be able to see ourselves
and each other as self-conscious. Note the circle in the definition,
and note that the definition nevertheless makes sense. We are sense
making creatures, and we know it. And that sense making is also what
self-consciousness is about.

I can see you as self-conscious, you can see me as self-conscious. I
can see you have an image of me, you can see I have an image of
you. And the trouble is that these images we carry inside us can be
wildly off. And our common experience is that talking does not help
much to get us back in sync. There is the old biblical story of the
Tower of Babel. What helps, in my experience, is opening our hearts to
each other, the conscious attempt to create a connection from the
heart. I have experience with this, and I would love to share my
experience.

You don’t have to embrace me for that. But, for heaven’s
sake, touch and kiss someone, and let yourself be touched and
kissed. It is very important for the healing of our souls that are
craving for the joy of union that we open ourselves to connection. We
are not separate, for ultimately all thought of separation is an
illusion. But with our mind we cannot know this. Concepts all have
insides and outsides. All concepts I have about you are ultimately
off, they create separation. For if you are this then you cannot be
that. Therefore, the deepest truth about our connection can only be
known with the heart. Opening our hearts means opening ourselves to
love.

For me this whole thing of opening up started with the intellect, by
pondering in my mind the question Who am I? and finding out that all
the answers I could think up had to be discarded. And the same holds
of course for Who are you?. There are groups emerging, mushrooming
everywhere, with the purpose of collective self-inquiry, dwelling on
the question Who are we?, Why are we together?, What is it that
becomes possible now that we are here together? Every time we ponder
these questions, it is possible to get a little deeper. That is the reason
why our meeting can have deep significance.

So the next step is to start juggling with our self images, playfully
share them, deeply question them, dynamically transform them, and
thereby reshape the experience of sharing this planet as human beings
that are finally grasping the full implications of our deep
interconnections. And my invitation to you is to join and participate.